B. Working through emotions and relationshipsNext e)


In Part B Working through emotions and relationships these sections are essential:

e) Person with ABI
f) Family members
j) Grief and loss

These sections can be chosen according to your interests:

g) Workers
h) Managers
i) Case managers

i) Key messages summary

e) The person with the ABI - the effects of the injury and dealing with the effects of the injury

A person with an acquired brain injury has had a life before the injury. Unless they are very young when they had the injury they will remember the life they had.

The acquired brain injury may have affected their thinking skills, communication/language, physical/sensory and emotional/behavioural/personality. In addition to experiencing these changes the person with the ABI has to respond to and come to terms with their new life situation. They also have to deal with their family members and friends coming to terms with the changes in them. As with any major life change loss, grief and rediscovery are part of the process.

f) Family members

Family members have also to be able to deal with: the changes in the family member because of the ABI; the responses to the family member in coming to terms with the ABI; their own coming to terms with all of this, and the impact of the change on the family.

Family members have a key role in helping the person with the ABI recover. Loss, grief and rediscovery are part of the process.

g) Workers - Building relationships and looking after oneself (including self-understanding about handling own stress, what pushes your buttons).

A key to working with a person with an ABI is building a relationship with them. Working with people with acquired brain injury can be difficult.

  • It can be hard to get to know them.
  • It can take time to get to know them.
  • Behaviours can be difficult to deal with.
  • They can be different from other people you have worked with.

Workers need self-understanding about handling their own stress and what pushes their buttons.

h) Managers

Managers of workers working with people with ABI need to understand a key to working with a person with an ABI is building a relationship with them. Working with people with acquired brain injury can be difficult.

The difficulties create stress for workers and the stress needs to be managed so it doesn't lead to disillusionment.

i) Case managers

Case managers also need to know a key to working with a person with an ABI is building a relationship with them. Working with people with acquired brain injury can be difficult.

Case managers also have to work with the person with the ABI and their family members in the grief process.

Case managers also have to change how they do case management to make it appropriate to working with people with ABI. They are also often involved in other services changing their work practices in order to provide a better service for people with ABI.

Changing one's own work practices and processes and practices of one's own and other organisations can be challenging.

Case managers need self-understanding about handling their own stress and what pushes their buttons.

j) Grief and loss

People with an ABI had a life before the ABI.

Family members of a person with an ABI had a life with the person before the ABI.

Loss and grief is part of working through the impact of having an ABI.

Grief is how we respond when we experience loss. Grief is a normal, natural and inevitable response to loss and it can affect every part of our lives.

Grief can seem like a roller-coaster ride with ups and downs, or it may feel like we are being battered about like a little boat in a storm. Sometimes it can seem overwhelming and frightening. Grief allows us to gradually adjust to our loss and find a way of going on with our life.

Everyone experiences grief in their own way. There is no 'correct' way to grieve, and no way to 'fix it'.

Everyone working with people with ABI needs to understand grief and loss and how to work with people experiencing grief and loss.

 

 

ii) Clip14. Jonathan & Mother : The Emotional Impact (3 min 40 sec)

Jonathan's mother (&Jonathan) talking about the emotional impact of what happened

     

iii) Clip 15. Jonathan' s Mother & Father : Paper Cranes (3 min 45 sec)

Jonathan's mother (& father) talking about the value of writing a diary and how it turned into the book Paper Cranes

     

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